8 Toxic personalities to avoid.... check it out :))

Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them:

1. Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.

* Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.

2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."

* Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.

3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.

* Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.

4. Judgmental Jim's: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.

* Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.

5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.

* Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.

6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.

* Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.

7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.

* Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.

8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.

* Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.

All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.

Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending much of time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier.

worlds most embarrasing moments ....

There was a World wide survey of "Most Embarrassing Moment in human life"

the finale had the following three incidents....

Third Place

"It was the day before my eighteenth birthday. I was living at home, but my parents had gone out for the evening, so I invited my girlfriend over for a romantic night alone. As we lay in bed after making love, we heard the telephone ringing downstairs. I suggested to my girlfriend that I give her a piggy-back ride to the phone. Since we didn't want to miss the call, we didn't have time to get dressed. When we got to the bottom of the stairs, the lights suddenly came on and a whole crowd of people yelled "SURPRISE!".

My entire family, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins and all of my friends were standing there ! My girlfriend and I were frozen to the spot in a state of shock and embarrassment for what seemed like an eternity.

Since then, no-one in my family has planned a surprise party again

Second Place

"While in line at the bank one afternoon, my kid decided to release some pent-up energy and started to run amuck. I was finally able to grab hold of her after receiving looks of disgust and annoyance from other patrons. I told her that if she didn't start behaving herself right now, she would be punished. To my horror, she looked me in the eye and said in a voice just as threatening, "If you don't let me go right now, I will tell Grandma that I saw you kissing Daddy's pee-pee(dick) last night!".

The silence was deafening after this enlightening exchange. Even the tellers stopped what they were doing! I mustered the last of my dignity and walked out of the bank with my daughter in tow. The last thing that I heard as the door closed behind me were the screams of laughter.

And the Winner is...

This one actually happened at Harvard University in October last year.

In a biology class, the professor was discussing the high glucose levels found in semen. A young female (freshman), raised her hand and asked, "If I understand what you are saying, there is a lot of glucose in male semen, as in sugar?" "That's correct." responded the professor, going on to add much statistical data. Raising her hand again, the sweet young thing asked, "Then why doesn't it taste sweet?".

After a stunned silence, the whole class burst out laughing, the poor girl turned bright red and as she realized exactly what she had inadvertently said(or rather implied), she picked up her books without a word and walked out of the class, and never returned.

However , as she was going out of the door, the professor's reply was a classic. Totally straight- faced, he answered her question, "It doesn't taste sweet because the taste-buds for sweetness are on the tip of your tongue and not in the back of your throat!

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feeling bored??... wanna have sum fun??... check it out :)

Dear Friends,

To all my dearest friends out there, I would like to plan out a summer camp among friends who would love to take part in it... Me and sum bunch of my close friends have been deciding to have sum fun lately going camping this coming 19, 20 and 21 May... So if you members out there are interested to join the club, plz give me a cal or even sms me anything to 0193552246(my mobile) or (Caxton)0123883992 ... OK the thing is, if you wanna have fun you sure have to spend for it, so me n sum of my friends suggest that RM 10 is required to spend for the camping... This money is not for me or anyone, its for the camping itself... The money is used for those listed reasons:

1. to buy food for living in the jungle. (need to do shopping for that)
2. for the rental of the house we're gonna stay.
3. the fun and enjoyment at the park. (ex. cycling or fishing.)
4. using the swimming pool. (charge RM 2 per person)
5. traveling by bus for side seeing.

Well, the venue will be at Taman Bukit Cahaya Seri Alam, situated in Shah Alam, Section 8, Selangor, Darul Ehsan... Why these place was chosen is because there are so many things to see and do here that you need more than a day to do it justice. There are many species of birds and animals that reside here. Among them are Kingfishers, Magpies, Peacocks, Squirrels and Monkeys. Though shy, these residents will not fail to amaze you with their day-to-day activities of food hunting and mating habits.

The best way to see what this huge Agricultural Park has to offer is by bicycle, which can be rented here. Cycling up and down the hills, passing through beautiful lakes that decorate the Park is an exhilarating experience itself. As cars and motorbikes are not allowed in the Park (except for those who stay overnight in one of the chalets in the Park), many of its attractions are accessible by the in-house bus service and bicycles for hire. Food and beverage stalls are located in every Garden and rustic timber chalets provide accommodation in the Traditional and Cultural Villages, and the Rest House area. If you prefer the great outdoors, campsites with barbecue facilities are available at Camar Rimba.

So if you guyz r interested, plz leave a message, comment or even sms me as I have given the number above and the date has also been informed above... And if you members are fine with the fee, than having sum fun wont be a problum... There are no age limits, no racists, no same sexs... Itz opened to all and whoever wanna join.. Juz keep intounch with me.. The more people the merrier it will be... hhehehhe :)

Until then, take care you all n have a great day ahead :)


-Jay-

itzz 25 stuffs about me... hhahhahhahahha :)

(*;*)those 25 random stuffs bout me.... hhmmmmmmm lets see...


1~ I eat tacos with a fork.
2~ I was fat in middle school. The wake of that horror has yet to subside.
3~ I keep forgetting that Najib Razak is our Prime Minister.
4~ I have been pooped on by a monkey.
5~ I am addicted to the ass-slap dance move.
Sometimes I don't even notice I'm doing it.
6~ I eat gummy bears by tearing them limb from limb and eating their heads last.
7~ I can't grow hair on my tummy.
8~ Two of my best friends are under five feet tall and I have an intense fear of midgets.
9~ I think yoga is incredibly spiritual. I know the Lord is with me in my downward dog.
10~ I like to tape my thumbs to my hands to see what it would be like to be a dinosaur.
11~ I don't believe in democracy(use to believe once...).
12~ I cried when Princes Diana died in the year 1997.
13~ I drink two glasses of wine every night before bed. Wait, did I just admit to alcoholism?
14~ If you asked me to tell you my favorite movie, I would have a hard time not saying Titanic.
15~ I don't understand what people see in the Godfather trilogy.
16~ Sometimes I think pee smells like Cheerios.
17~ I often start grieving things long before I’ve actually lost them (or left them).
18~ I never know what to say when people ask me what kind of music I like.
19~ I have an over-developed sense of guilt. I don't know why. I've tried to figure it out and get over it, but nothing's worked so far.
20~ The manliest thing I do is grill. I love grilling stuff. I'd grill breakfast cereal if I could figure out how.
21~ I think believing in God makes doing the right thing less noble.
22~ I think the most attractive part of the human body is the eyezz.
23~ The perfect spot I love to go and spend my time is the beach... beside the sea.
24~ It’s difficult for me to remember to wear underwear.
25~ I love talking to babies..



I have a lot to describe but 25 was the only limit required... hhehehheheh :D

Sumthin' special for my mommy :)

Angel Food Cake for Your Angel(Mommy) :)

A couple of weeks ago I began to imagine the angel food cake I would make for Mother's Day, a sort of homage to the angel in my life, a light and airy labor of love flecked with chocolate bits. I’d made one angel food cake in my life. I was in high school, it was for Valentine's Day and my brother gets half the blame. It was made with the requisite dozen egg whites, the signature ingredient for a light and airy angel cake. Ours might have been tasty, but nobody remembers. What is remembered about that particular cake – and you know the story has been retold a thousand times - is that it required a sharp knife to cut each bite and it was chewy, maybe a little chewier than God intended for her/his Angel Food Cake. That cake was a tough cookie. Do not mess with her!

Umpteen years later I thought I would try again. I’ve learned to cook, done a little baking, it would be perfect for Mother’s Day, my mother would think me an angel for making something angelic for her . . . I’m on it.

Besides, I have the perfect pan. A couple of years ago my mom was ready to dump her vintage angel food cake pan and vintage gets me every time. Because I have so much room for stuff like that in my uncluttered basement, and haven’t baked an angel food cake since high school, it made perfect sense for me to take it off her hands. It’s taken cover in the basement ever since.

I wanted the angel food cake to be flecked with melted morsels of chocolate and tried to find a recipe for that - I’m sure it’s been done. I couldn’t find one so decided to wing it, add finely chopped chocolate with the dry ingredients and cross my fingers.

Here it is along with suggestions for improving the next one (more chocolate). Family loved it though they know perfectly well I’m no angel.

Chocolate was the *improvisation, otherwise I used the following recipe from Gourmet.com. I chopped up some favorite chocolate until it was in fine bits (you could also put it in a grinder or blender for a quick whirl). After the chopping, measure 3/4 cup and set aside. Add more if you dare. I added 1/2 cup and felt more would have been better.

Ingredients:
1 ½ C egg whites (11 – 12 large eggs) A dozen beautiful eggs from Stoney Plains Organic Farm
1 ½ C sifted confectioners sugar (sift before measuring)
1 C sifted cake flour (non-self rising; again, sift before measuring)
¼ t salt
1 ½ t cream of tartar
1 C granulated sugar
1 t vanilla

Equipment: 1 10-inch tube pan w/ a removable bottom. Do not grease or flour.

Let egg whites stand in bowl of a standing electric mixer at room temperature about 1 hour before making cake. (They should be about 60°F, slightly below room temperature.)
Set oven rack in lower third of oven and preheat oven to 350°F.
Sift together confectioners sugar, flour, and salt onto a sheet of wax paper using a triple sifter or fine sieve.
Beat whites in mixer until frothy. Add cream of tartar and beat at medium speed until they form soft peaks. Add granulated sugar gradually, beating, and continue beating just until whites are thickened and form soft, droopy peaks. Beat in vanilla.

Sprinkle one fourth of sifted dry ingredients over whites and fold in with a rubber spatula gently but thoroughly. Fold in remaining dry ingredients, one third at a time. (*This is where I added the chocolate; include it with the dry ingredients and fold in.)Gently pour batter evenly into ungreased tube pan and bake until top is light golden, cake retracts a bit from pan and springs back when touched lightly, and a tester comes out clean, 40 to 45 minutes. Invert pan onto neck of an empty wine bottle or a large metal funnel and cool cake completely.

To remove cake from pan, run tip of a long, narrow knife between outer edge of cake and pan. Tilt cake pan on its side and gently tap bottom edge against counter. Rotate pan, tapping and turning a few more times, until cake appears free. Cover pan with a metal rack or cardboard round and invert, tapping pan firmly to loosen cake. Lift pan from cake. (It should come out beautifully, like a pillow taken out of a slipcover.)

Drizzle a thin chocolate frosting over the whole thing, serve with whipped cream and fruit, or just go with the cake, plain and simple. And then you face the problem of the abandoned egg yolks. The bowlful is a constant reminder of something you now don’t know what to do with and you hate to waste. A few possibilities: I added one to potato latches the other night; added two to Italian meatballs; made a batch of Caesar salad dressing using two more. Classic Pound Cake, which I’ve never made in my life, requires egg yolks. Yolks are an efficient thickener to sauces, but you have to be careful not to scramble them. What else? Happy Mother’s Day :)

To all mothers in the world... :)

One day, a young boy asked his mom.
"Why are you crying?"
"Because I'm a woman" she told him.
"I don't understand," he said.
His Mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will, but that's okay."
Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mom seem to cry for no reason?"
"All women cry for no reason" was all his dad could say.
The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry finally, he put in a call to God.
When God got back to him, he asked, "God, why do women cry so easily?'' God answered, "When I made women, I decided she had to be special.
I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet her arms gentle nough to give comfort.
I gave her the inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times will come, even from her own children.
I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going and take care of her family and friends, even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue, without complaining.
I gave her sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances even when her child has hurt her badly. She has the very special power to make a child's boo-boo feel better and to quell a teenager's anxieties and fears.
I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults, and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.
I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife but some times tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.
For all of this hard work, I also gave her a tear to shed, It is her's to use whenever needed and is her only weakness."
"When you see her cry, tell her how much u love her and all she does for everyone. And even though she may still cry, you will have made her heart feel good."


HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY :)